Part 2, read part 1 here
All of us react rather than respond much of the time. It feels expansive and joyful and connecting to respond, because responsive data is the felt perception of the truth of our Unity. Reactive data is the dusty past. I experienced a good example of the difference between reaction and response recently. My housemate got an enormous TV for his birthday and offered his old small screen to my son. I have not had a TV since 2005, and the TV I had then was pretty much forced on me by a well-meaning relative who thought I didn’t have a TV because I couldn’t afford it. She couldn’t fathom the idea that I simply wouldn’t want a TV. So, part of the past accumulation story of ‘me’ is this identity as someone who does not have a TV. My son came to me and offered the small screen as one that could be used for the house in general if needed. I reacted grumpily to this as a perceived threat and enforced “no TV in the shared space!”. My son is highly attuned to understanding that aggressive reactionary behaviour is not the full truth and gently pointed out that he was not meaning to be threatening and that I could update my old ideas around screens if I wanted to. Beautifully after some time of adjusting I saw that I was indeed operating through mistaken identity past-data storytelling (in other words reacting) and I hugged him and expressed thanks both for his good intention to share, and for loving me enough to let me know when I’m reacting rather than responding. This was love rather than fear in action. We still didn’t keep the screen, but the important thing was that we expressed connection through love rather than fear and felt closer and more expanded and joyful as a result. I could also laugh at myself and enjoy this example of living what I write about. I felt the attack energy in my reaction and was able to use that as an opportunity to use my felt perception sense to understand the true loving intentions behind his words rather than construing meaning using only assumptions based on word symbols. My son is even more highly sensitive than myself, and very often translates energy felt in the present rather than solely the content of symbolic data based on the past. This made his childhood very challenging for him because he would readily perceive the fear energy behind what people were saying and feel hurt and confused by it and translate it as himself not being loveable. I had a similar empathic experience when I was younger. Through a dedication to communicate through love rather than fear I have come to be able to feel people’s emanations of fear energy now and to more often than not manage not to take it personally. This is actively learning compassion and I’m still learning this one. I’m very pleased to be learning it because it is an essential skill for navigating the Earth walk.
The true purpose of empathy is to communicate directly through our felt perception to co-understand authentic experience. When we live this, we become beings who communicate directly from heart to heart (or centre to centre). This is the One communicating love to Itself. I call this compassionate Here-ing.